When I first discovered I was expecting, I was excited to join the ranks of motherhood as a fledgling member. Soon, however, I learned that I was not having a sweet bundle of joy; I was having three. As blessed as we are to have become a family of five so quickly, I found that having triplets made me seem almost un-relatable to other moms. There are a few things I would like my mom friends to know about me:
I often wonder what life with one child is like. Not because I wish I had one child. I am obsessed with all three of my kids. But you know that yummy moment when a newborn finishes eating and curls up asleep in your arms? For me, that moment always meant that it was time to put that baby in a crib and attend to the next child. I used to daydream about what it would be like to hold my child whenever I felt like it for as long as I wanted. I still imagine how it would feel to go to the store with a child and not have people stare, comment, or whisper about my family. I envy your normalcy.
I will never minimize your struggle. Often, you will say things to me like, “I guess I shouldn’t complain when I only have one baby.” Please complain. Vent. Make me feel human. We’re on the same team. We’re moms. Our struggles won’t be identical, but they will be real.
In some ways, I have it easier than you do. Having three babies at once isn’t necessarily easy, but there are some ways in which it is easier than one. For instance, when I put my kids in bed, they go right to sleep without any coaxing. In fact, they never expect individualized attention for anything. That makes my job easier in lots of ways. As they’re getting older, they are starting to play together. A lot. This provides me with a little bit of freedom to get some other things done. I can’t imagine having to be a child’s sole entertainment all day; that must be absolutely exhausting.
I am NOT a Supermom. I hate that term. If you had three babies at once, you know what you would do? You would raise them. Just like I’m doing. Honestly, you would probably do it better.
I need you. I can’t do this in a vacuum. I need someone to bounce ideas off and to share stories with. When I get swept up in the chaos, I want to be able to use you as an anchor. And I hope you use me too.
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